Shut Up, Sit Back, and Listen

Shut Up, Sit Back, and Listen

Dr. Bastian Greshake Tzovaras offers concrete ways in which men can  be effective allies to empower women and promote gender equity in STEMM fields. Our guest post is part of a collection of articles entitled, “Championing the Success of Women in Science, Technology, Engineering, Maths, and Medicine.” 

The UNESCO Institute for Statistics estimates that only around 30 percent of researchers worldwide are women (1). Similarly, according to the Economics and Statistics Administration of the US Department of Commerce only 24 per cent of STEM jobs are held by women (2), with individual disciplines like Engineering having a significantly worse gender bias. There’s also extensive literature on biases against women in STEM (3), affecting all aspects of academia, including hiring, publishing, citation counts and teaching. Given these disheartening statistics, it is clear that there is still a long way to go before we can even start thinking about gender equality in STEM.

Why am I, a man in STEM, writing about this? Because to me these statistics also show another thing: men, who are dominating these fields, have an obligation to support women in STEM and help level the playing field. But how can men help to facilitate change and support women in STEM? All the things I try to implement are the result of listening to women – who sacrificed their spare time to educate me – and taking their advice. Thus, maybe the single best, most actionable thing is this: step back, shut up, give women space, and listen to them.

What can this look like on a more concrete level? Ask yourself about your own environments: is it men, including me, who are taking up all the airtime at meetings (4)? Chances are that this is the case, as women are interrupted more often than men (5) and speak significantly less at professional meetings (6). So take a break and let others speak. To whom are you paying attention (7)? Is it the always same male crowd? For social media some tools let you check the gender breakdown of the people you read (8). Make sure to identify those voices you’ve ignored so far and listen to them. Along the same lines, ask to whom you are giving an audience. Make sure also to boost the messages of women instead of only focusing on your (male) buddies (9). Generally, the male overrepresentation in STEM means you’re likely to default to male perspectives. Make sure to steer actively against this.

Listen to women in STEM

This becomes even more important in the context of organising conferences, events or communities at large, as representation matters. Achieving a 50:50 gender split at conferences is still not a given and is the sad reason why #YAMMM (yet another mostly male meeting) and #manel are common hashtags on Twitter. Try to consult speaker databases that relate to your topic of interest (like the Open Speakers Database (10) for all things open). Additional ways to counteract gender-biased presenter lineups are listed in Ten Simple Rules to Achieve Conference Speaker Gender Balance (11).

Furthermore, look at who is participating not only at your co- organised conferences, but also at your communities at large, be it a research project or a lab you are running. Do you end up having a homogenous, male participant base? This might be because the community’s culture and behaviour are all but inviting for anyone else. Formulating well-stated, positive community values along with a code of conduct can help with a cultural change. The Diversity, Equity, Inclusion report of OpenCon offers excellent guidance and lessons learnt (12) on these topics. Kirstie Whitaker gives a good example of a code of conduct for the lab (13). Lastly, you will need to enforce your code of conduct and reinforce good behaviour in your communities, as only this will lead to lasting change.

How Can Men Support Women in STEM?

If you are not the one setting the official rules for the communities you are involved with, you can still play your part in supporting women in STEM. Ask the organisers about their gender balance amongst the presenters and decline the invitation if it is a manel or YAMMM. Be explicit about your reason for declining (14) and ideally even offer them a list of women they should ask to present. In my experience this can often have a direct effect on who will speak at an event.

You can similarly push conference organisers and project leaders to adopt a code of conduct if they haven’t done so already. And lastly, there is an opportunity for you to speak instead of listen: it is important that unacceptable behaviour should be called out by everyone, not only the targets of it, especially as men face fewer negative consequences than women for doing so (15). So, step in when you observe inappropriate behaviour as well as sexist jokes and assumptions. It is what Mikka McKinnon pointedly called Intervene when you see BS (16). Don’t be quiet in these situations, but speak out and offer support.

This is by no means a complete list of things that men can and need to do to support women, inside and outside STEM. It does not magically solve all structural biases inherent in the current STEM environment. But I believe it makes for a good start for improving oneself, including me: take some steps back, listen to women who have all the unwanted experience in how STEM fails them, and learn how you can make a difference. Only then can you help the world of STEM to become a better place for all.


This article was first published on Digital Science in celebration of Ada Lovelace Day (October 10, 2017), under a Creative Commons license and reproduced here with permission from the author. You can download other articles in the report, including one from our own Buddhini Samarasinghe.

Top image credit: original photograph by Alaina Percival, CC 2.0 via Flickr. Adapted by STEM Women.


  1. Women in Science – Fact Sheet No.43 
  2. Women in STEM: A Gender Gap to Innovation 
  3. Gender Bias in Academe: An Annotated Bibliography of Important Recent Studies
  4. Check Who’s Dominating the Conversation
  5. Influence of Communication Partner’s Gender on Language 
  6. Study: Deciding by Consensus Can Compensate for Group Gender Imbalances
  7. The Byline Survey Report
  8. Followerwonk 
  9. On Twitter, Men Are Retweeted Far More Than Women (And You’re Probably Sexist, Too)
  10. Open Speakers Database
  11. Ten Simple Rules to Achieve Conference Speaker Gender Balance
  12. Enforcing a code of conduct 
  13. Code of Conduct 
  14. Take the Gender Avenger Pledge
  15. Allies against Sexism: The Role of Men in Confronting Sexism

About the Author

Dr Bastian Greshake Tzovaras is biologist-turned- bioinformatician. He just submitted his Bioinformatics PhD thesis about the genome evolution of lichens. When he is not analysing the genomes of fungi he keeps himself busy with open science-related issues, covering academic publishing, open source and participatory research. He is the co-founder of openSNP, a crowdsourced open data repository for personal genomes that helped 3,700 people to donate their genomes into the public domain. Starting November he will be the Director of Research for Open Humans, an open research community that centres studies and projects around the participants.

Follow Bastian on Twitter @gedankenstuecke

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